I am in an unusual profession where the nature of my “job” is literally to “work myself out of a job” and that is why I have chosen to name my practice RESOLTUION COUNSELING. The goal is to resolve problems and issues that interfere with living in a state of “ease” rather than “dis-ease”.
I begin with the premise that life can be lived with joy and contentment. That does not mean that there should never be difficulties because, of course, there will be. The goal is to develop emotional and psychological resilience to meet the difficulties and counseling is what can give you the tools to “weather the storms” of life.
Pain is often viewed as undesirable, whether it is physical, emotional, psychological or spiritual. I am not an advocate of pain but I do see its’ value. It is there to tell us when something is wrong! It is vitally important that we pay attention to it and yet, if you have learned how to numb your feelings and avoid experiencing pain by engaging in compulsive behaviors of any type, you will be in denial of what is really going on and the pain will only be masked - but not forever.
Pain will always win out because it is there to give you critical information that needs your attention. It is trying to tell you that you are in trouble – something is not right.
Typically few people walk through my door who are not in sufficient pain to get them to my door. This is to be celebrated! Once you are ready to deal with the pain or the “dis-ease” you are experiencing, you are choosing to take responsibility for making your life fulfilling and happy. It takes courage to acknowledge something is not right but again the pain is there to help you understand this. Avoidance does not make it better, it only postpones the inevitable – things will get worst. Please remember – if nothing changes, nothing changes.
You have it within your power to make changes for yourself; to be self-determining. Counseling can assist you in creating your road map. It can give you the tools to achieve your goals. It can offer empathic support through the process of growing into who you want to be and what you want to create for yourself! If you get to the door, you are on your way and it is a wonderful, exhilarating journey. You end up going through the pain – not addictively around it – and finally you come out on the other side. The process takes you to a place of “ease”.
And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. - Anais Nin